Cleaning Out the Trash

There's a common saying, 'taking three steps forward and two steps back'. We've all felt this sort of frustration at some point in our life. Luckily you're reading this article and I have an exercise to show you how to eliminate the 'two steps back'.

By focusing on something, you're going to draw it to you. Focusing on anger brings anger. Focusing on being a money magnet, draws money. Focusing on love brings love. It makes sense then that when we focus on forgiveness, we draw healing and positive things into our lives leaving negativity behind.

We can use forgiveness to benefit ourselves. What I'm telling you is very pragmatic.

Where do you want to get ahead in life but find your progress blocked? This would be a perfect area to use the tool of forgiveness.

We're human. We've all had trials and tribulations, many of us are prone to resentment and anger and frustration at people withholding from us what we needed. And in turn we have withheld understanding from ourselves and the cycle is repeated. There's good news. . .

By forgiving yourself and others, you can clear this garbage out of your unconscious mind.

The great thing about this exercise in forgiveness is that it doesn't have to be done in person with those who have upset you or who you've upset. This is what you should keep upper most in your thoughts:

Forgiveness is done to benefit ourselves not somebody else.

Sincerity is the first step in forgiveness. Being willing to let go of what you're holding on to is mandatory. This is not about the 'act of forgiving' but about actually forgiving. After you've performed the exercises, if you find that you haven't fully let go of the resentments or anger or whatever, you haven't fully 'actually' forgiven.

For this exercise you'll need a piece of paper and a pen...

Your first focus is yourself. Can you identify times when you did something to someone that you're not proud of? We all can, I'm sure. Write these incidents down.

And how about times that you've wronged others? Write them down.

Write down times when you were too hard on yourself and didn't give yourself the benefit of your kindness.

Write down everything you can think of. You can make it a list, you can make it a paragraph, you can make it a poem, you can make it epic. After each incident, write out specifically what you did and to whom.

Then write how you have carried that with you, because obviously if you remember it, you've carried it with you. So, how have you carried it wit you, in the form of what? Anger? Guilt?

After you've purged it all, gotten it all down on paper, now you can write out how you are now forgiving yourself. You will find that if you forgive yourself first, you'll find it much easier to forgive others.

Take all that you've written and write yourself a letter. Make sure you've said all that you have to say.

Now, this next step is crucial to the process of forgiveness and the power of influencing yourself and others.

After you've got your letter written, take it to a private, safe place, preferably outside, and read it out loud to the universe stating what you've done and that you are forgiving yourself.

Release it all.

Once you've read it then light it on fire and burn it up. And as you do, you're setting all of that negative energy free. You're releasing all the anger and bitterness and resentment that you've held onto about yourself.

When this has been accomplished, give a statement of gratitude and appreciate yourself for understanding the importance and doing the work of discharging that negativity. You can now move ahead in your life. Notice how much lighter you feel.

Now that you've forgiven yourself, it's time to forgive others. . .

Think about how you feel wronged by others.

How about a job. We've all had jobs where we've just been screwed. How about times when you've felt cheated or taken advantage of? How about times when you've felt unappreciated? How about times you were lied to or were told what amounted to be untruths?

Write a list of those people and for each name, write a separate letter. You may have a bunch of letters here but that's okay. Start with the biggest offenders first. The ones that have made you the most upset in your life first.

Write out your forgiveness for them. And for each person, you're going to write them a separate letter. What did they do to you that you have carried with you in your heart? How did you carry resentment about this issue? What negativity were you wishing to happen to them? Say it clearly.

And finally. . .

Now that you've completely forgiven them on all levels, go back out to your private, safe place and read all the letters out loud, burning them as you go along, releasing all of it. After, spend a few moments basking in the sense of freedom and release that you experience.

Once we've cleaned out the trash, we have so much room for abundance and prosperity to flow directly to us. And this is what makes a solid foundation for your persuasion skills to really have an impact on your life.

Forgiveness is in itself a form of persuasion - we are persuading our unconscious to release the negativity it's been harnessing for so long, and to grasp the positive hope and excitement for the future. Only then can we truly be free from the mental blocks that hold so many of us back from achieving the life we desire.

"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future." - Paul Boese

About the Author

Kenrick Cleveland teaches techniques to earn the business of affluent prospects using persuasion. He runs public and private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching programs in persuasion techniques. Click here for other unique 'persuasion' articles.

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