Persuading Through Desires

This is a subject that's near and dear to my heart. I've been exploring it over the last year and a half and have had some tremendous results with self persuasion and self mastery in this arena.

I truly believe that the quickest way to make progress externally is to take it upon yourself to make progress internally.

If you learn how to ask the right questions, you will all of the sudden lock in on the right answers. With that as my guide, I began asking myself questions.

Some of the "right" questions: What is the real make up of a human being? Where do we come from? What is our organic makeup?

It's philosophical. . . I know and that's not always comfortable for more technical or process oriented people because it can be vague and open ended. . . but give it a try. Where does the subconscious mind live? It lives in the body. What then would be the influence of the body on our subconscious mind? If the subconscious mind lives within the framework of a human being, must it carry with it then the frame work of that body?

The answer is most definitely.

Our bodies carry genetic programming. This genetic programming directly influences our subconscious/other than conscious minds, our thought process, our learning, our experiences, how we form values. . .

So what is more fundamental than values?

Our core drives. There are four that supersede every other drive we have as human beings. First and foremost, we have the drive to sustain ourselves. Without food, we die. It's that simple.

We all know that if we stopped eating right now, forever, our lives would end fairly soon. Energy consumption allows live to exist. It's about continuing on.

This drive can most definitely become perverted. . .think gluttony. It becomes not about survival and continuing, but something else.

I began asking myself last year, what's the difference between my need to eat and my drive for pleasure? I used to say things all the time like, 'I can't wait for dinner tonight because I'm going to really feel good eating the kinds of things that my wife is going to make me.'

Eating for pleasure, like I was, has the potential to really do some damage. I began to persuade myself that it is far more important to eat to survive than it is to eat for momentary pleasure. I am continually working mindfully to make the right choices. It's not always easy. Cake is delicious. But cake is not helping me to continue. Cake, for me, was helping me to die. The choice became very clear.

There is some research that has been done recently on why do some people when faced with huge health issues change and other people don't. The desire to eat turns into something so perverted, so infected, so unhealthy, that the concept of 'continuing on' is not even a priority anymore. (More on the other kind of perversion/desire in an upcoming article on the fourth base drive.)

My big question became: how can I learn to eat to survive and not for purposes of enjoyment. This focus has helped immeasurably. I have begun to find my enjoyment in other things.

Look for more on the remaining base desires of fight, flight, and reproduction to come, and for tips on how to use these impulses, urges and drives to persuade like crazy.

About the Author

Kenrick Cleveland teaches strategies to earn the business of wealthy clients using persuasion. He runs public and private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching programs in persuasion strategies. This article is available as a unique content article with free reprint rights.

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