The Process Of Change

'Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.' --Albert Einstein

Change is hard to define. Some changes, such as significant weight loss or selling a house in the current market, seem to take a very long time (or at least that's what it feels like). Other changes happen instantly, irreversibly, like the loss of a loved one. Many people are highly uncomfortable with change. They hold on to things trying to avoid the inevitable. One of my grandmothers had the same hairstyle for 40 years, lived in the same house for as long, dressed in a similar manner, had many of the same friends, went to the same church, and shopped in the same grocery store. She did not like change. These all gave her a sense of security. It worked okay for her but she never grew beyond what she was 40 years prior. Holding on to the old does not keep us more secure, but for some, the familiarity is more than enough to compensate for that.

The world is in a constant state of change--weather, temperature, time, seasons, life, death, rebirth. . .there's nothing we can do to hold this change back and the most counterproductive and self defeating thing we can do is work against change.

I am now in my late forties and I'm venturing out and making changes in both my personal and professional life. These changes are thrilling and terrifying. And I am greeting them with eagerness and excitement, choosing to trust that growth is coming.

Now that we're a little way into the new year, it's time to take inventory of what needs to change for you. I wrote a little bit about resolutions at the beginning of the year. This is a basis for change for some people, a nice trigger. However, larger changes come at you at unexpected times, not on a predictable timetable, many times without our consent. (Scary.) And managing our fear over these changes is really the key to happiness and fulfillment on all fronts.

If you fear change, this is for you. Stop robbing yourself of the opportunities available to you with a little risk, a leap of faith, so to speak.

When we realize our resistance to change is entirely emotional, we can overcome it. Emotional resistance is tricky. We have to 1) believe that it can be done, and 2) realize that emotions are choices. We can choose fear. Or we can choose to push past fear. It's been a revelation to me to truly comprehend that emotions are choices. I have a sense of relief and non-attachment and freedom over what I choose to feel.

We allow ennui to overtake us, a general sense of weariness, and this requires us to really want to push past it. I heard someone say the other day, 'I really wish I wanted to quit smoking.' Is this person going to quit smoking? No way. Motivation is definitely a huge factor. For some, changing can come out of a fear of losing something valuable to them (their life, their family, their job). Others have a fear of the unknown. These are both valid but regrets are seldom about things we have tried, and often about the things we were too afraid to try.

I'm making some changes in what MaxPersuasion is offering. Stay tuned for new opportunities and articles on how to expand persuasion in your life.

About the Author

Kenrick Cleveland teaches techniques to earn the business of affluent clients using persuasion. He runs public and private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching programs in persuasion techniques.

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